Sex can be a joyous expression of ourselves. And still, we often secretly worry about it - is what I want ok? Why does sex hurt? Why don’t I find pleasure in it? Will my partner accept my deepest wishes? What are my own needs?
If you need a listening ear, who will give you the knowledge and advice you are looking for, accepting you just as you are, I’m here to meet you.
What do I do?
What I can offer you is sex counselling, if you have questions about the following:
- finding sexual pleasure - this is an issue common to many women. Often we need to find her pleasure after she has been exclusively thinking about his for years. How to explain painful sex? Sometimes we need to discuss sexual shame and body issues here.
- understanding different sexual and romantic identities - What is what? How to read all the identities? Am I “asexual”?
- sexual education - what is normal? What should I worry about? Am I ok the way I am sexually? Are my desires and fantasies normal?
- lack of interest in sex/ desire issues in the couple - one of the most common issues in established couples;
- learning how to touch, different types of touch and their meaning;
- safe sex and consent.
I’m not a therapist, nor do I work with nudity. If I decide that you need to see a different specialist, such as gynaecologist, urogynaecological physiotherapist or psychotherapist, I will refer you to one.
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My sessions last 45 minutes. I never divulge the information you share with me to anyone. You can expect total confidentiality.
I assess how I can best help you with your concern, but I do not make diagnoses. I might give you homework.
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My first workshop on Pleasure offered to women and to people socialised as women is planned for September 23rd, 2023.
My Story
Though my career path did not immediately take me there, I have always considered sexuality to be an essential part of human life. I wanted to know as much about it as I could, and to discuss it with others.
This eventually led me to take up studies in practical sexology, which I complemented with several sexological workshops such as Aspex with Dr Patti Britton and Sexual Reassesment and Restructuring Training (SAR). I continuously strive to remain curious and broaden my knowledge of the topic, whenever I can.
My name is Malgorzata Jokipii. I was born in Poland, but have spent half of my life abroad in different European countries. I identify as a European cisgender woman, member of a universal sisterhood of women and mother of two teenagers. I love talking to women about their sexuality.
People I work with
I work with women and people socialized as women. These counselling sessions are there to empower women by making them own their sexuality and their pleasure.
Book an appointment.
Please fill in the form below to book a one-on-one session or a workshop.
For coaching sessions, please let me know of any cancellations at least 48 hours in advance. Workshop places are reserved by submitting a payment.
Heterosexual men are much more likely to experience orgasm and pleasure from penetrative sex than heterosexual women. Why is that important? Expecting rewarding sex contributes to women’s sexual arousal. Remember -sexual stimuli (whether positive or negative) produce vaginal arousal (lubricated vagina) in women but this doesn’t translate into subjective desire (willingness to have sex). Previous rewarding sex, pleasure during earlier sexual acts contributes to subjective desire, increasing woman’s motivation to have sex.
Is sex rewarding enough?
Bookshelf
Passionate Marriage
by David Schnarch
Mating in Captivity
by Esther Perel
Attached
by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
Disclamer
I’m not a therapist, nor do I work with nudity. If I decide that you need to see a different specialist, such as gynaecologist, urogynaecological physiotherapist or psychotherapist, I will refer you to one.
Dare to Ask
Please contact me via email:
Individual sessions:
138, rue des Confédérés
1000 Brussels